My mom was the one who taught me how to be insistent. When I was a kid and she was trying to change a flight reservation or persuade someone to do something she would spend literal hours on the phone—she’d just keep calling back until she found someone who would do it. At the time I found that super embarrassing, as kids do. But looking back, I see that I internalized something important: how to ask for what you want.
Yes! Developing an "asker" mentality also helped me develop self awareness by figuring out what I actually need/want in order to request it. The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer was a great read on this
Some of my best relationship memories are from moments where I decided to be honest. Tell the person how I feel or how I would like him/her to be.
Unfortunately I found that it was very rare to find people with who I could reach that kind of levels of honesty
Yes! Developing an "asker" mentality also helped me develop self awareness by figuring out what I actually need/want in order to request it. The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer was a great read on this
The more I understand my own priorities through practice and repetition, the less I guess or have to guess about others.
Asking feels like an extension of the stillness I feel within as areas of life define themselves over time.